Our tradition is full of incidents where our ancestors strayed from the truth. Wives were called sisters. Questionable practices and tactical omissions were justified with holy motives. Angels, and even G-d himself, changed their words to fit the circumstances. This week, in Parshas Toldos, we see one of the most famous of these tricky scenarios in the first-born birthright and the blessing of the firstborn son Eisav being transferred to Yaakov, the second son.

It is a real challenge for us not to judge others based on what we see because of all the factors we do not know. It is our way to give the benefit of the doubt, even when circumstances seem perfectly clear. A modern-day example of this is popular media culture. I’ll be the first to admit that it is a bunch of junk. TV and radio bombard us with an overwhelming amount of useless information that skews our thinking and makes distortions appear true. So, because of this, should we ban all media? Blanket choices like this can throw out the good with the bad simply because it is easier.

Similarly, it is easy to consider Rifcah’s scheme to have Yaakov blessed rather than Eisav as a sneaky trick because she had a proper reason that wasn’t truly disclosed in the moment. While pregnant, she noticed that when she walked past a place of idol worship, part of her womb pulled in that direction. A different part of her womb pulled in the direction of holy places when they were encountered. She found out that each of her twins had a different inclination and that one would serve the other.

The difficulty arose because she chose not to tell her husband about it and he believed that Eisav was something that he was not. Issac assumed that he was within the realm of teshuvah and wanted to bless him with the strength to overcome his inclination.  Rifcah, on the other hand, knew it would be a wasted blessing and that it had to rest instead on Yaakov. Her actions were for the sake of heaven, and to save a life we can do almost anything.

In Yaakov’s righteousness, he objected to the plan and feared that he would be cursed, to which his mother said “any curse will fall on me” because it is the way of women (Ibn Ezra) to be compassionate and ready to suffer for their children. (Yohel Or) Besides, she was confident in the prophesy that the “older will serve the younger” that came to her directly from Hashem.

Thus, the younger took the blessing and the birthright from the older and, in the end, it turned out that it was clearly a case of “mama knows best.”